You found it, right at the end of the post. It is a cultural issue above all else and it is a common difference. It's not a question of good/bad or entitlement. Just decide what type of culture you are OK working for, given the trade-offs. If you don't have to live in a $4000 a month, two bedroom apartment, or a 2 hour commute, or 12% state income tax, maybe it's worth adjusting. Maybe not.